What happens when we force someone into a relationship?

 

We should fall in love with the person spontaneously without any external pressure. And at the same time that person should also feel the same. Just because we love someone doesn’t mean that person should also feel the same. But there are some people who force the other person to fall in love. They threaten that person, stalk them continuously, lie to them or try to impress them by hiding their own personality. These things will lead to a relationship which is totally toxic. That relationship won’t last forever. When you force someone to love you the following things might happen.

1.   There will not be a true commitment in the relationship: Commitment is important in every relationship. When a person is forced into a relationship they will not commit themselves totally into that relationship. They just stay in the relationship for name sake.  This leads to anger and dishonesty towards their partner. They start to lie and cheat, which totally destroys the relationship.

2.      There won’t be peace in the relationship: When we lie to the person to fall in love with us, we will always have a thought that they might leave the relationship, they might fall out of love when  they come to know the truth. There will always be tension in that bond. This will lead to loss of peace in our mind. We start a relationship to feel happy and peace. But when it results in no peace it destructs our body and mind which destroys the relationship.

3.      The relationship won’t last long: We always desire to travel with the person we love throughout our life. But it won’t happen when we force that person into a relationship. As the days go they might start to realize that there is no love in them and will try to move away from you. The relationship will be broken. It won’t last forever.

4.  Violence and emotional blackmail: The fear that the person we love might move out of the relationship will make us think of the other ways for them to stay in the relationship like beating the person, blackmailing them emotionally. Violence and blackmail in a relationship is very dangerous. When violence arrives the love disappears in that relationship.

5.  We might become a slave to that person: When we make someone to fall in love with us without their complete will, we have to be the one who needs to adjust in all situations. For a relationship to be successful both the person has to put their effort. But in order to make them to stay with us, we spend our whole effort. We literally become a slave to that person. This type of relationship has no meaning to be continued.

When we fall in love with any person we should express our love in a genuine way. We can give a try for once or twice. But when we come to know that they are not at all interested in us, it is best to move on. Threatening them or trying to be so sweet which is not your personality will only lead to a temporary toxic relationship. You will either become a person they hate or someone they take more advantage of.